So I am 80..what now?

How does it feel reaching 80? Aside from slight pains and aches…thank heavens, my health if fine. But it gives me pause at this time, having reached this figure to reflect on the changes that one has to make with himself and with those around him. Sure, with my salt and pepper hair and reduced walking speed I could enjoy some allowances when in public with other humans around. They soon realize that my walking speed is reduced and perhaps even my view of life could be slightly dimmed. Still, I do feel that turning 80 starts another decade in my life that might just be worth reviewing and reflect on. Now here are some ideas and tips picked up from other seniors which I would like to share with fellow “oldies” as well as those intending to become seniors, bless their soul. Having left the “rat race” as some would put it, perhaps it is time to begin to enjoy your loved ones and those who sincerely love you. Cherish old and new friends and do not indulge in amassing material things. Friends appreciate – things depreciate. If you have been fortunate enough to have stashed a little upon your retirement, carefully plan to spend whatever you have saved wisely. You and your spouse certainly deserve to enjoy this time during the remaining healthy years you have left. Invest in an ocean cruise if you can afford it. Or, just travel to places that your budget will allow. Seeing new places and meeting people can certainly make your life meaningful and joyful. Also, I advise you not to leave anything for your children. Because in leaving anything, it is possible that you may even cause more trouble, once you are gone. Always remember to live in the “here and now”, not in the yesterdays and tomorrows. It is only today that you can handle. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow may not even happen. If you are among the blessed ones who have grandchildren, enjoy them as much as you can but don't be their full time baby sitter. As a grandparent, you have no moral obligation to take care of them. Don't have any guilt about refusing to baby sit anyone's kids, including your own grandkids. Your parental obligation is to your children. After you have raised them into responsible adults, your duties of child-rearing or babysitting are finished. Let your children raise their own off-springs. Embrace whatever physical weakness, sickness and other pains that may come to you. It is a part of the aging process. Enjoy whatever your health can allow. Enjoy what you are and what you have right now. Stop working hard for what you do not have. If you don't have something, it's probably too late. Forgive and accept forgiveness. Forgive yourself and others. Enjoy peace of mind and peace of soul. Befriend death. It's a natural part of the life cycle. Don't be afraid of it. Death is the beginning of a new and better life. So, prepare yourself not for death but for a new life with the Almighty. Be at peace with your Creator for He is all you have after you leave this life. Whenever your married children (and grandchildren) ask for advice - do not give them any. Rather, give them alternatives for them to have better choices. Never pontificate even if you know you are sure of what you are saying. Just give them love and care as much as you can.